She told me that on day 27 completely out of nowhere, with no conversation, no argument, no external pressure of any kind Daniel called her and asked if she’d go to mass with him that Sunday. She hadn’t said a single word to him about the book. She had just prayed specifically, intentionally every day with Carlo Acutis as her companion through the practice.
A man named George Tafoya from Albuquerque, New Mexico used the book to pray for his wife Renata who had grown cold toward faith following a devastating miscarriage 3 years earlier. He hadn’t known how to reach her. He’d tried talking and she’d gone silent. He’d tried going to mass alone and she’d noticed but said nothing.
He started the 33 days without telling her. On day 19 of the practice, Renata picked up a rosary she hadn’t touched in 2 years and came to him where he was sitting in the living room and asked him to pray with her. He’d said he cried through the entire rosary and she held his hand the whole time and didn’t say anything and somehow that was exactly enough.
And a young woman named Abby Sloan from Cork, Ireland prayed the 33 days for her father, a man who, in her own words, hadn’t spoken the name of God except to curse in over 30 years. He was a good man who had suffered a loss of faith so old it had calcified into identity, the way things do when they’ve been unexamined for long enough.
By the final day of the practice, entirely on his own, without any prompt from Abby, her father asked her to take him to confession. She told me she’d nearly veered off the road when he said it. “I had to pull over,” she wrote, “because I was shaking.” The link to the book is in the first pinned comment below. It costs less than a cup of coffee, and what it might set in motion for the person you love, that has no price in any currency I know of.
And that, honestly, is exactly why I want to tell you what happened to me in Rome in 2006. Because I was one of the most resistant, most analytically defended, most politely unreachable skeptics you could have put in a room with Carlo Acutis. And somehow, without any drama, without any argument, he still found a way through.
My name is Dr. Marcus Fennell. I’m 54 years old now. I was 34 back then. I’m originally from Boston, South Boston specifically, which matters only because it tells you I come from a tradition of stubborn, proud, culturally Catholic people who are deeply suspicious of anything that looks like sentimentality. And I’ve lived in Rome since 2000.
I work as an independent historical consultant for the Vatican, specifically for the Dicastery of the Causes of Saints, the office responsible for investigating and documenting cases for canonization. My work is entirely archival and documentary. I locate historical records, cross-reference testimony, assess the internal coherence of evidence, identify anachronisms, flag inconsistencies.
My entire professional existence depends on the discipline of not being moved by what I cannot verify. I am, by training and by genuine inclination, deeply skeptical of extraordinary claims. This is not a pose. This is not false modesty. This is simply the shape of my mind after 20 years of doing this specific work in this specific field.
In the autumn of 2006, I was working on a documentation project for a case I cannot fully name for confidentiality reasons, but it kept me at the Vatican archive most days and had me moving regularly between different offices and departments inside Vatican City. I was 34 years old, 6 months out from a separation from my wife Elena, and I’ll tell you why that matters, because it matters enormously to understanding what happened.
And I was in what I now recognize as a significant personal and spiritual crisis, though at the time I would have described myself as simply tired. Tired is a word people use when they don’t want to be more precise. I had grown up Catholic, All the sacraments, Catholic school through high school, the whole formation.
By the time I was about 23, I had quietly, calmly, and without any particular drama exited my faith the way you leave a party early when you realize you’ve been having a bad time. No announcement, no argument, just a decision that this was no longer for me. I had replaced it, or so I told myself, with intellectual rigor.
History, evidence, the disciplines that separate what can be demonstrated from what cannot. I was good at my work. I was respected in my field. I lived in Rome, which is a city so saturated with religious history that you become somewhat immune to it the way you become immune to any constant stimulus. You stop registering the beauty of it because it’s everywhere, and everywhere becomes nowhere.
The separation from Elena had happened in May of 2006. Five years of marriage dissolving not in a dramatic rupture, but in a slow, grinding, politely terrible silence. The kind where two people eat at the same table and are strangers, and both know it, and neither knows what to do about it. Elena was a woman of deep, warm, consistent faith.
The kind that wasn’t loud, but that organized her entire life around a center that held. I had long since stopped sharing that center with her, and I think, looking back with the particular clarity that 18 years of reflection provides, that the absence of shared faith had created a distance that neither of us knew how to cross.
She moved back to her family in Florence in May. I stayed in our apartment in Prati, near the Vatican, surrounded by reference books and takeout containers, and the specific quality of silence that belongs to a home where someone used to laugh. And with her went our son Leo, who was 7 years old. I tell you all of this so you understand exactly who I was when I first saw Carlo Acutis.
It was a Tuesday morning, September 26th, 2006. I was crossing the Cortile di San Damaso, the central courtyard of the Apostolic Palace inside Vatican City, on my way to a meeting in the Secretariat of State. The courtyard in the morning has a particular light, sharp and golden, bouncing off pale stone in a way that makes everything look slightly more significant than it is.
There were a few other people moving through, staff and clergy and researchers, the usual mix. And sitting on a low stone ledge near the far wall, eating what looked like a sandwich from a paper bag, was a teenager. Dark hair, slightly too long, gray hooded sweatshirt, dark jeans, Nike sneakers with the distinct character of something that had been worn enthusiastically for at least 2 years.
A black backpack beside him, half open, with the corner of a laptop visible inside, the way it always is with people who are trying to get to their laptop quickly and have given up on proper closure. He looked completely at home. That was the first thing that registered. Not like a tourist who had wandered through the wrong door.
Not like a kid being dragged somewhere by a parent. Completely, easily at home. Eating his sandwich, watching the pigeons walk across the stone in their self-important way. Looking entirely like someone who had nowhere better to be. And was glad of it. He glanced up at me as I walked past and smiled. Not the polite, slightly startled smile of someone caught doing something unexpected. A genuine, warm, easy smile.
The kind you give to someone you know and are glad to see. I did what any sensible Vatican consultant crossing a courtyard on a schedule would do. I nodded briefly and continued walking. I was perhaps 10 steps past him when he said in Italian, calm as a comment about the weather. Scusi, Lei conosce il Cardinale Sartori? I stopped.
Cardinal Renato Sartori was one of the figures I encountered regularly in the halls and corridors of Vatican City. He was in his late 70s. A former theologian of some distinction. A man who had spent 30 years in curial service with a reputation for intellectual integrity that was unusual and valued.
He had been ill for about 2 months. Not loudly ill. There were no announcements, no official communications. But the particular quiet that falls around a sick person in an institutional environment, the way conversations shift and schedules subtly reorganize, had made the situation clear to anyone paying attention. The medical staff were managing something serious.
The word that moved through the informal channels was not optimistic. There were quiet conversations among senior staff about succession, about pending documents that might need to be reassigned, about contingencies. I knew Cardinal Sartori the way you know someone you’ve worked near for years without ever sitting down to talk.
His face, his voice, the way he moved through a room, the particular tilt of his head when he was listening carefully. I knew he was sick. And I knew from the way people spoke around the subject that sick probably meant something more than temporary. I turned back to look at this boy. “Why?” I asked. “I’d like to visit him,” he said simply and directly, the way people say things when they mean them without elaboration.
“I heard he wasn’t doing well.” I should have said something redirecting him to the appropriate office, given him a number to call, and continued to my meeting. That was the reasonable thing to do. Instead, and I have thought about this particular instead many times over the years, I said, “Do you know him?” He shook his head. “Not yet.
” I don’t know why I laughed, but I did. It was an honest laugh, the involuntary kind. “You can’t just walk in and visit a cardinal you’ve never met,” I said. He looked at me with an expression that I have tried to describe to people many times and have never quite captured. Patient is the closest word. Not condescending.
Patient in the specific way of someone who has learned, at whatever age, to give other people time to arrive at what they already know. “I know,” he said, “but sometimes things work out.” I did eventually get to my meeting, but that afternoon, walking back through the building on my way out, I passed Father Giuseppe, one of the staff attached to Cardinal Sartori’s office, a soft-spoken man from Calabria, who I’d talked to many times over the years.
And I mentioned, almost as an afterthought, that I’d seen a teenager in the courtyard asking about the cardinal. Father Giuseppe stopped walking. He looked at me with an expression I couldn’t fully read, something between surprise and something else I didn’t have a name for yet. “He came,” he said. “The boy came this morning.
The cardinal asked to see him.” I stared at him. He asked to see a teenager he’d never met? Father Giuseppe lifted both hands in that particularly Italian gesture that means yes, and also I cannot explain this, and also, please don’t ask me to. “He asked specifically. He said someone should let the boy in.” I stood in that corridor, and I applied every analytical instrument I had professionally developed to that sentence.
And I noticed, with the precise and slightly uncomfortable clarity of a person whose job is noticing things that don’t fit, that the sentence did not fit. Cardinals confined by serious illness to their private rooms do not request visits from unknown teenagers. That was simply not a thing that happened in this building, and yet Father Giuseppe, a reliable, careful, conservative man who did not exaggerate and did not invent, was telling me plainly that it had happened.
I went back the next morning. I told myself it was professional curiosity, which was true in the way that technically accurate explanations are often true while still being incomplete. I found Father Giuseppe again and asked if the boy was still around. He pointed down the corridor toward Cardinal Sartori’s rooms and said quietly, “He’s in with him again.
” I waited in the anteroom. There is a particular quality to waiting in Vatican corridors. The stone is cold even in autumn. The air carries a faint smell of old wood and paper and something that might be incense or might simply be accumulated time. And the silence is active rather than empty. The silence of a place where significant things have happened and are expected to keep happening.
I waited there for about 40 minutes reading nothing, looking at a painting of the Annunciation on the wall opposite that I had walked past a hundred times without genuinely seeing. The door opened and Carlo came out. He was alone. He had both straps of the backpack on his shoulders the way teenagers only do when they’re moving with purpose.
And his sneakers made a small sound on the marble floor, the particular squeak of rubber soles on polished stone. He looked settled. That is still the word that comes to me 18 years later. Like someone who has completed a thing they were supposed to do and is at peace with the completion. He saw me and his face opened into that easy smile.
Dr. Fennell. He said as if we’d been introduced. We had not been. I had never told him my name. How do you know who I am? I asked. He tilted his head slightly. Someone mentioned you. It doesn’t matter. And then before I could follow that thread any further, he said he’s going to be okay. The cardinal. I want you to know that.
Not because of anything the doctors will do alone. Something is going to shift for him in the next two days. Something that can’t be fully accounted for. I prayed the rosary with him this morning. He cried for about 15 minutes and then he was more at peace than I’ve seen almost any adult be. It was genuinely beautiful.
He’s going to be okay. I stood in that ante-room and looked at this 15-year-old boy in his hoodie and his worn sneakers speaking about a cardinal’s spiritual and physical condition with the quiet authority of someone who had been doing this kind of work for decades and trusted the results. I did not know what to do with him.
I am not accustomed to not knowing what to do with people or situations. My entire professional formation is essentially a set of tools for knowing what to do with things that don’t immediately make sense. And none of those tools were producing useful output. What are you, exactly? I asked. It was a rude question, and I heard the rudeness in it the moment it was out.
He laughed. A completely genuine laugh. The kind that comes from the belly. The kind that has no performance in it. “I’m just a kid from Milan,” he said. “I like computers and video games. I go to mass every morning. That’s really most of it.” We ended up talking for close to an hour. I do not know how it happened.
I had work. There was always work. But something about him made the work feel less urgent in a way I had not experienced in a long time. He told me about the Eucharistic Miracles Project. About the website he had built to document them. About the research and travel involved. About his conviction that the physical evidence was far more compelling than most people knew.
Because most people had never actually looked at it with fresh eyes. He talked about it the way teenagers talk about the things they genuinely love. With an intensity that has no self-consciousness in it. Because it isn’t performing for anyone. He was not trying to convert me. He was not trying to impress me.
He was simply telling me what he found interesting. With the confidence of someone who knows that what interests them genuinely is worth the other person’s time. And then, about 45 minutes into this conversation that had no logical reason to be happening between a Vatican Archival Consultant and a 15-year-old from Milan, he looked at me directly and said something that I have never been able to explain and have stopped trying to explain.
He said, “How long has it been since you called your son?” The floor moved. Not metaphorically. I mean, I experienced a genuine physical sensation of the ground beneath me becoming suddenly less certain. A shift in my inner equilibrium. Like the moment before vertigo fully arrives. Because I had a son. His name was Leo.
He was 7 years old and in the months of separation and work and distance and the particular paralysis that comes from knowing you have done something wrong and not being able to find the entry point to address it, I had not spoken to Leo in 31 days. Elena had taken him to Florence in May. I had called once in June, a short and strained conversation full of adult logistics and unsaid things.
And then somehow 31 days had accumulated in the space where phone calls should have been. I was ashamed of this. Profoundly, quietly, continuously ashamed. I had not told anyone. Not my colleagues, not the few friends I had in Rome, not the monsignors I saw every working day. Nobody knew. Carlo Acutis knew. “How do you” I started.
“You should call him.” He said. Not as an accusation, not with any edge in it at all. Simply direct and clear, the way you state a fact to someone who needs to hear it plainly. “He’s been waiting. He doesn’t understand why you haven’t called, and children almost always absorb adult failures as evidence of their own inadequacy.
He thinks somehow this is about him. You know that. You know how children interpret absence. You’ve known it this whole time. That’s part of why it’s been 31 days. I could not speak. A grown man, a professional, a person whose entire identity was organized around the capacity to analyze and respond and maintain composure.
I sat in a Vatican anteroom across from a 15-year-old in a gray hoodie, and I could not produce a single word because everything he had just said was precisely, specifically, exactly true. And I had been not knowing it for 31 days because knowing it precisely required doing something about it. “I know you don’t believe in much right now,” he said, and his voice was gentle, but not pitying.
There is a crucial difference, and he knew the difference. You used to believe, and then you decided you didn’t, and now you carry that distance from God the way people carry a wound that’s healed over without ever really closing. You’ve built a whole intellectual identity on top of it, and you’re very good at that identity, and it serves you.
But underneath it, there’s something that still misses the thing it walked away from, and you have no vocabulary for that because the vocabulary was the first thing you gave up. I looked at him for a long time before I spoke. “Does it come back?” I asked finally. “After that long, can it?” He was quiet for a moment.
His eyes were very dark and very still. I’m going to tell you something, he said, and I want you to remember the precision of it because the precision is going to matter to you later when you need something solid to hold on to. In 48, whether hours or days, you’ll understand later which something is going to happen in this building.
Something that people in this building are going to have a very hard time explaining in the frameworks they normally use. When it happens, you’re going to be in a position to see it clearly. And after that, you’re going to call Leo. And that call is going to be the beginning, not the end of the difficult part, the beginning of the something that matters.
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I left the Vatican that afternoon and sat in my apartment in Prati for a long time, very still, with my phone on the table in front of me. I did not call Leo that night. I told myself I needed to think first, to process the conversation, to understand what had happened before I acted. And process is a word researchers use when they want to feel methodical about the fact that they’re afraid.
But I did take the small notebook I kept in my jacket pocket, and I wrote on an empty page the date, September 26th, 2006, and the number 48. And I drew a line under it, and then another line under that, the way you underline something when you need to make sure you don’t lose it. I saw Carlo twice more in the following days.
He returned to visit Cardinal Sartori on September 27th and again on September 28th. On the morning of September 29th, and I am reconstructing this from Father Giuseppe’s account, from the medical records I was later able to review through my professional capacity, and from the brief, but significant notes that were circulated internally, Cardinal Sartori, who had been confined to his rooms, and who the attending medical staff had been treating with the measured, careful language of people managing a decline rather than pursuing
a reversal, got up from bed on his own. He got dressed without assistance. He walked steadily without support to the small private chapel attached to his rooms, and spent approximately 1 hour there before returning to his chair by the window, where he sat reading and apparently undisturbed for the remainder of the day. His attending physician, Dr.
Aldo Marchesi, documented this in his clinical notes with the precise, careful understatement of a man who is being scrupulously accurate because he does not have an adequate framework for what he is observing. 48 hours after Carlos’ last visit to Cardinal Sartori, two men arrived at the cardinal’s rooms, not his regular medical team.
Two men from offices within the dicastery, connected to the medical advisory board and to the office responsible for reviewing extraordinary events reported within church contexts. They were there for most of the morning. I know this because I walked past that corridor twice during the day, and because Father Giuseppe, in a brief exchange that made clear he was saying more than he was supposed to, confirmed it in a sentence and changed the subject.
The Vatican had sent people to investigate. 48 hours after Carlos’ final visit, exactly as he had said. And here is where I need to be very precise because precision matters and Carlo told me it would. When he said 48 in that anteroom, I had heard it as 48 days. Some future event, 6 weeks hence. But sitting in my apartment that Sunday evening, counting backward on my notebook page, I suddenly looked at the actual sequence with full attention.
Carlo spoke to me on September 26th. His last visit to the cardinal was September 28th. The observable change that triggered the Vatican response occurred on September 29th. The investigators arrived on September 30th. That was 48 hours from Carlo’s final prayer in that room. Not 48 days, 48 hours. The number was right.
The element it attached to was not what I had assumed. And I am a professional whose entire career is built on the distinction between what a source actually says and what an interpreter assumes it means. Carlo had said 48. He had not specified hours or days. He had told me the precision would matter and that I would understand later which. He was correct on every count.
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It’s the simplest thing you can do to make sure I can keep sharing these stories with everyone who needs them and it means more to me than the number suggests. I called Elena on October 3rd. It was a difficult phone call in the specific way that honest phone calls are difficult after a long silence. Not hostile, but raw in the particular way of a wound being cleaned.
And then she put Leo on the phone. He said, “Hi, Daddy.” And I pressed the phone against my ear and held very still for a moment before I could trust myself to speak normally. The conversation was 20 minutes long. He told me about school, about a drawing he’d made of a dog, about a cat in his grandmother’s courtyard that he wanted to adopt and had already named Astronauta.
20 minutes of a 7-year-old’s entirely ordinary life. It was the most important 20 minutes I’d spent in years. I understand now that ordinary love offered without condition is a form of grace, but I did not have that language then. I just knew it was necessary and that I had come close to missing it entirely.
I saw Carlo for the last time on October 4th, 2006, the feast day of St. Francis of Assisi. I was leaving the archive building in the early afternoon, the light long and golden the way it gets in Rome in early October, and he was sitting on the exterior steps, laptop open on his knees, working on something with the focused, slightly forward-leaning posture of someone deep in a problem they enjoy.
He looked up when he heard my footsteps on the stone. “You called him,” he said. “I called him,” I said. He nodded with a satisfaction that was entirely unpretentious, just the simple, clean satisfaction of someone who watched something go the way it should. Then he closed the laptop partially, rested his hands on it, and said, “I want to tell you something before you go.
It’s not about being good enough to believe. That’s the confusion most people with your specific history get stuck in. The idea that faith is something you earn back by being worthy of it again. That’s not what it is. It’s about being honest enough to need something. About letting yourself be exactly as uncertain as you actually are, instead of performing a certainty you don’t feel.
Those are genuinely different things. A lot of people spend their whole lives confusing them and never quite arrive at either.” He asked me whether I had actually looked at the Eucharistic Miracles documentation. Not superficially. Not with the half attention of someone who has already decided what they’ll find, but with the same rigor I gave to historical sources I respected.
I told him honestly that I had not. He took a small notebook from his jacket pocket, tore out a page, and handed it to me. On it, in neat, precise handwriting, the URL for his website. “The evidence is genuinely better than you’d expect,” he said. “And I mean that specifically as a compliment to you because I know you’re someone who actually follows evidence wherever it goes, rather than stopping when it gets inconvenient.
” We shook hands. A firm handshake. Direct and unceremonious. The kind you’d give a colleague. He stood, adjusted both straps of the backpack with a practiced shrug, and walked away across the courtyard, sneakers scuffing lightly on the ancient stone. I stood on the steps and watched him cross the courtyard. He didn’t look back.
The afternoon light was behind him and there was nothing cinematic about it, just a teenager in jeans walking away across old stone carrying a laptop and a paper lunch bag and whatever interior life he lived inside that easy, settled exterior. Eight days later, on October 12th, 2006, Carlo Acutis died.
The leukemia had been fulminant. From first symptom to death was essentially a matter of days, the way some illnesses move with a speed that the body has no adequate response to. I learned of it from a brief notice in one of the church publications I received automatically by virtue of my work. I read his name, read the date, sat at my desk in the archive, and did not move for a considerable amount of time.
He had known. When we were talking on October 4th, when he was eating his lunch on those steps and closing his laptop and giving me that URL and telling me it wasn’t about being good enough, he was already sick, already carrying something he had not told me and had not, from his manner, allowed to show in any way.
He had sat in the autumn sun and talked to me about honesty and evidence and the specific nature of faith with a complete composure of someone who has already made their peace with what is coming and has decided to spend the time that remains doing exactly what matters to him. That was the quality of him. That particular impossible quality that I have never encountered in any other person in 54 years of living.
In the weeks following his death, I did what he had asked. I went to his website. I spent hours on it, which became days, which became a sustained engagement that surprised me with its depth. And I say this as a professional who has spent two decades evaluating the quality of historical documentation. It was meticulous.
Every claim was sourced. Every anomaly was cross-referenced against independent records. He had traveled to see physical evidence with his own eyes and then documented what he found with the scrupulous care of someone who understood that extraordinary claims require extraordinary evidence and were therefore obligated to provide it.
The work of a mind that was both genuinely scientifically rigorous and completely wholeheartedly in love with the subject. I found myself reading past midnight following links to Lanciano, to Siena, to Blanot, to Tixtla, to case after case of physical phenomena that the records around them treated with the careful hedging language of people who do not know what else to do with what they’re looking at.
And underneath the historian in me, underneath the analytical framework and the professional skepticism, something that had been sitting very still and very quiet for 11 years began slowly to move. I went to mass for the first time in over a decade on November 1st, 2006, the Feast of All Saints, which I note only because the coincidence was not lost on me.
I slipped into the back of the small church of Santa Maria delle Grazie near my apartment in Prati, a church I had walked past hundreds of times without entering. I took the last pew. I sat very still and I watched and I listened. I am not going to tell you it was a thunder from the sky moment because it was not.
It was quiet. It was the specific quietness of a door that has been closed for a very long time being opened gently by someone who is not in a hurry. I cried a little in the back of that church in the dark where no one could see me. Not from sadness and not quite from joy, but from something that was perhaps the beginning of the sensation of coming home to a place you’d convinced yourself you didn’t miss.
Cardinal Sartore, for what it is worth in terms of the larger record, lived for another six years and remained active in his office until 2010. His attending physician, Dr. Aldo Marchese, published a paper in 2009 in the careful, clinically circumspect language of a man who will not overstate what he observed, but cannot in good conscience omit it, documenting the medically unexplained nature of the Cardinal’s improvement in the autumn of 2006.
The paper does not mention Carlo Acutis by name. Clinical papers documenting unexplained recoveries in Vatican contexts rarely named specific visitors. But anyone who knew the sequence of events would recognize the timeline without difficulty. The cardinal himself in a letter that was shared within certain private Vatican circles and that I was shown through my professional connections some years after his death referred to those three days in late September September as the most significant spiritual encounter of
my life and wrote that a young visitor whose name I later learned had been taken by God before I could properly thank him prayed with me in such a way that I understood clearly that his prayer was not on behalf of his own intentions but entirely on behalf of mine which is a rare and genuinely extraordinary quality in any person of any age.
Then in 2019, October of 2006, almost exactly 13 years after Carlo’s death I was going through personal files from that period, material I’d kept without organizing the kind of accumulation that happens when you move through years of life without stopping to sort it. And I found the notebook page the one Carlo had torn out and handed me on those steps the URL for his website written in his neat, precise handwriting on the front.
I turned it over because I noticed there was writing on the back. And on the back in the same handwriting was a date and a sentence. The date was October 4th, 2006 the day he had written it and handed it to me. And the sentence was this. The day you find this again, it will be the right time to share it. You’ll know.
I want you to sit with that for a moment before I keep going. He wrote that sentence on October 4th, 2006, 8 days before he died. On a piece of notebook paper that he handed to a man he had met once in a Vatican anteroom and spoken to a handful of times over the course of 10 days. He wrote it on the front where I could see it immediately.
He wrote his message on the back where I wouldn’t see it until I had a reason to look. He had no way of knowing I would keep that page for 13 years. He had no way of knowing it would take 13 years. And yet, the sentence was dated verified in his handwriting telling me that whenever I found it again, it would be the right time.
And in October of 2019, I had just made the decision after years of hesitation to start speaking publicly about what had happened to me. A friend working on a testimonial project had been asking me for months. I had been resistant in the specific way I am resistant to things that feel simultaneously important and exposing.
And then I opened that file and found a piece of notebook paper from a 15-year-old boy who had been dead for 13 years telling me that when I found it I would know. I knew. Hey, before I go I have to ask you something. If this story has reached you tonight, if something in it has touched a place that needed touching, I would love to know where you’re connecting from.
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You being here, staying through all of this, means more than you know. Today, I am 54 years old. I spend part of the year in Rome and part of it back in Boston, where I’m closer to Leo, who is 25 now, studying architecture at the Università degli Studi di Firenze, who goes to Sunday mass on his own, whose faith is entirely his own in the way that things are yours when they have been chosen rather than inherited.
He calls me every Sunday without exception. We talk for at least an hour, usually longer. That 7-year-old boy who waited for a phone call that didn’t come for 31 days is now a young man who carries himself with a quiet confidence and who has more faith in his father than his father ever had in himself. And I will spend every remaining year of my life trying to be worthy of that.
Elena and I are not together, and I am at peace with that. Our separation was real and it was right, and we have both found lives that are honest and good. We remain parents together, which is a kind of partnership that the dissolution of a marriage can’t dissolve. And when Leo was confirmed at 18, a decision he made entirely on his own, quietly, without announcement, the way people do things when the decision comes from a genuine interior place.
Elena and I stood together in the church, and I thought of a teenager in a gray hoodie sitting on the stone steps in October sunlight telling me that the call would be the beginning of something. Not the end of the difficult part, he had said, the beginning of the something that matters. He was right. He was exactly, measurably, verifiably right.
I go to mass every morning now. I have been going every morning for about 12 years without significant interruption. I am not presenting myself as a saint or as a person of exceptional virtue. I am a 54-year-old Boston-born archival historian with a complicated personal history and a tendency toward excessive analysis and a habit of making coffee at 4:30 in the morning when the insomnia that comes with middle age decides it has something to say.
But every morning before the emails and the work and the decisions, I go to mass. And every morning for at least a moment, I think about a teenager in sneakers eating a sandwich in a Vatican courtyard smiling at a stranger as if he already knew them because in some sense that I am still not able to fully explain, but have long since stopped trying to explain away, he already did.
Carlo Acutis was beatified on October 10th, 2020 in Assisi. I watched it on a live stream from my apartment in Rome. The city was under COVID restrictions. The church held only a fraction of the people who would have been there otherwise. And I cried in the particular way that gratitude produces tears. Which is different from sadness and more complicated and harder to stop once it starts.
Because the church was naming publicly, with all the weight and care and deliberation that naming involves, something that I had known privately for 14 years. That this boy was something extraordinary. That his 15 years on this earth, jeans and sneakers and laptop and video games and daily mass and a website about miracles and prayers for specific people offered with precise and loving intention, had left behind a shape in the world that kept finding people and touching them exactly where they needed to be touched. If you are someone who
has been carrying a quiet distance from God, from family, from a person you love and cannot reach, from some version of yourself you left somewhere and are not sure how to return to, I want you to hear what Carlo said to me in that Vatican anteroom in September of 2006. Because I believe he would say the same thing to you now, without any modification.
It’s not about being good enough to believe. It’s about being honest enough to need something. Those are genuinely different things. The first is a standard you can never meet because it is designed to keep you at a distance. The second is simply an act of telling the truth about where you actually are. The piece of paper he handed me is on my desk right now as I speak to you.
I have it here. I look at it most mornings. His handwriting on the front, the URL for a website built by a 15-year-old boy who loved God and computers with equal and uncomplicated intensity. And on the back in the same careful hand, the date October 4th, 2006 and one sentence. The day you find this again, it will be the right time to share it. You’ll know.
He was right. He was always right. And I think that the fact that you are here listening to this right now might be its own version of the same thing. The day you find this, it will be the right time for whatever it is you need it for. For whoever you’ve been carrying. For the call you haven’t made yet. The door you haven’t walked back through.
The name you haven’t allowed yourself to say out loud because saying it means wanting something and wanting something means the possibility of not getting it. And that is a risk that feels some days too large to take. Take it anyway. That’s what Carlo would say. Take the small, specific, honest step and trust that it will be met.
The link to 33 days with Carlo Acutis is in the first pinned comment below. A small book. A short practice. Less than the cost of a coffee and what it might move in you or in the person you love that I can promise you from 18 years of living the evidence has no ceiling and no price.
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