Often Kennedy making jokes, laughing, dancing. But in 1963, everything changes. Cold War, Cuban Missile Crisis, Vietnam, Kennedy looking tired, aged, and now gone. November 24th, 1963. Sunday 10:00 a.m. Dean at home. Couldn’t sleep. Watch television all night. Every channel Kennedy constant replay. Assassination footage.
Jackie’s bloody dress. Drinking coffee, but no taste. Nothing has taste. Phone ringing. Dean not looking. Doesn’t want to, but phone won’t stop. Finally answers. Hello, Mr. Dean Martin. Unfamiliar voice. Official cold. Yes, I’m Ralph Dunan. White House special assistant. May I call you? Dean straightening up, putting down coffee.
Of course, sir. Mr. Martin, first I want to extend my condolences. I know you knew President Kennedy. Yes, I knew him. Mr. Martin, I’m calling on behalf of Mrs. Kennedy, Jquelyn Kennedy, Dean Swallowing. Jackie, world’s most powerful woman, now widow alone. Yes, sir. The president’s funeral will be Monday, November 25th.
Arlington National Cemetery State ceremony. Whole world will watch. Dean waiting. And Mrs. Kennedy Jackie wants to make a request. Pausing. Will you sing at the funeral, Mr. Martin? Dean freezing because this question wasn’t expecting this. Mr. Martin, are you there? Yes, I’m here. I Excuse me. just surprised.
I understand this is a great request, but Mrs. Kennedy specifically wanted you. The president loved you. Loved your songs. Dean closing eyes. Kennedy loves his songs. Loved. Past tense. Now, what song would they like me to sing? Dean asks. The battle hymn of the republic. It was one of the president’s favorite hymns, both religious and patriotic.
Dean taking deep breath. Battle hymn. Powerful hymn. War march. Mine eyes have seen the glory. Funeral song. Morning song. Mr. Martin. This is a tremendous honor. World will watch. Will be in history books. And Mrs. Kennedy wants you. Dean swallowing. Mr. Duncan. I need to think. Silence. Long silence. I’m sorry. You need to think. Yes, sir. Mr.
Martin, this is President Kennedy’s funeral. America’s funeral to refuse this. This wouldn’t be appropriate. I know, sir, but I give me time, please. Dungan’s voice hardening. Mr. Martin, we’re planning ceremony, organizing, singers, speakers. How much time can I give you? 2 hours. 2 hours? Yes, I’ll get back in 2 hours. I promise.
Okay, Mr. Martin. two hours. But please understand if you say no, we’ll have to find someone else. Mrs. Kennedy will be disappointed. I understand. Phone hanging up. Dean standing there, phone in hand, heart beating fast because this decision, this isn’t just decision. This is the past. This is 1960.
This is that night. July 1960. 3 years ago. Lake Tahoe, Nevada. Cal Nea Lodge. Rat pack there performing for John F. Kennedy, presidential candidate, hall full, 500 people, wealthy donors, politicians, Hollywood stars, stage, Dean, Frank, Sammy, Peter, Joey, songs, jokes, dance, applause, Kennedy in front row, laughing, clapping, Jackie beside him.
Show lasts two hours. Perfect show. Finally, Dean takes microphone. Ladies and gentlemen, your next president, John F. Kennedy. Hall standing up. Applause explosion. Kennedy going on stage hugging Dean. Thank you, Dean. Great show. Honor for us, Senator. Kennedy smiling. If I win, you’ll perform at White House. You’ll win, I’m sure.
Show ending. Hall emptying. Backstage. Dean in dressing room taking off tie. Door knocking. Come in. Kennedy entering alone. No security. No assistant. Dean surprised. Senator, did you forget something? Kennedy closing door. Dean, can I talk to you privately? Sure, sit down. Kennedy sitting but not comfortable. Tense, hands shaking.
Dean noticing. Senator, are you okay? Kennedy lifting head, eyes tired, worried. Dean, I I want to tell you something. Nobody knows. Frank doesn’t know. Jackie doesn’t know. Only you will know. Dean sitting attentive. I’m listening. Kennedy taking deep breath. I’m scared, Dean. Dean pausing. Why, Senator? Of being president.
This This is too big, too heavy. Lincoln was president. Roosevelt was president. Great men. And I I’m just senator, a kid from Massachusetts. Pausing, hands trembling. What if I fail? What if I disappoint the country? What if What if I’m the worst president in history? Dean seeing for first time. John F. Kennedy, strong, charismatic, always smiling in media, but now fragile, human. Dean leaning in.
Senator, look at me. Kennedy looking. Being scared is normal. Dean says, “A man who’s not scared is a fool because great things are scary. But you, you’re ready.” How do you know? Because the people chose you. Millions of people. They believe in you. I believe in you. Kennedy wiping eyes.
Dean, you you’re a singer, but you’re also real. You don’t lie. Dean smiling. No, I don’t lie. Kennedy standing up. Dean, I want to ask you something. Ask if I win, if I become president, will you sing for me at White House? Dean laughing. Of course, Senator Kennedy getting serious. No, Dean. I mean this only happy songs, victory songs, dance songs.
Pausing, looking into Dean’s eyes. Never funeral songs, never morning songs because I I want a happy presidency full of hope. Full of future. Dean nodding. Deal, Senator. Only happy songs. Promise. Kennedy extending hand. Dean shaking hand. Promise. Both there shaking hands. A presidential candidate. A singer and a promise.
Nobody knowing, nobody seeing, but that promise. Real. November 24th, 1963. Sunday, noon. Dean sitting, head in hands. Thinking about that night. 1960. Tahoe. Kennedy’s words. Never. Funeral songs. Door knocking. Frank Sinatra entering. Dean, you didn’t open door. I used my own key. Dean not lifting head. Frank approaching.
Dean, did you hear? White House called you. How do you know? They called me too. I’ll be at funeral making speech. You’ll sing too. Dean shaking head. Frank, I can’t sing. Frank sitting. What do you mean can’t sing? Of course you will. This is president’s funeral. I know. Jackie specifically wanted you. I know. So, what’s the problem, Dean? You’re Dean Martin, world’s best singer.
Of course you’ll sing. Dean standing up, walking to window, looking outside. Frank, I promised Kennedy. Frank pausing. What promise? In 1960, Tahoe. After show, he talked to me privately. Nobody knew. Dean turning looking at Frank. He said, “Dean, if I become president, sing for me, but only happy songs, never funeral songs.” Frank freezing.
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What? He was scared. Frank of being president of failing and he made me promise happy songs. But Dean, he he’s dead. Promise isn’t valid anymore. No, Frank. Dean’s voice rising. Promises don’t die. People die, but promises remain. I told him I’d only sing happy songs. And I I can’t sing at funeral. Frank’s standing up. Dean, are you crazy? This is President’s funeral. Jackie waiting.
World will watch and you’ll refuse because of a promise. Yes, your career will end. I know America will curse you. I know. So why Dean? Why? Dean speaking quietly. Because that night Kennedy trusted me in his weak moment, in his scared moment. And I promised him and I I keep my promises. Frank shaking head. Dean, you you’re impossible.
Maybe, but I’m doing what’s right. 12:00, 2 hours past. Dean picking up phone, calling White House. White House, how can I help you? Ralph Dunan, please. Dean Martin calling. One moment, Mr. Martin, hold music. Hail to the chief. Ironic. Then Dunan. Mr. Martin. Two hours passed. Have you decided? Dean swallowing. Yes, sir. Great. Mrs. Kennedy will be so happy.
Which ver Mr. Dunan? Dean cutting in. My answer is no. Silence. Long cold silence. What did you say? I said no. I can’t sing at funeral. Mr. Martin, are you refusing? Yes, sir. Duncan’s voice changing. Shock then anger. Mr. Martin, do you realize what this means? This is President Kennedy, country’s president.
Whole world will watch. I know, sir. Mrs. Kennedy specifically wanted you. She’s mourning now. Lost her husband. And you? You’re refusing. Yes. Why? Tell me why. Dean pausing. Should he tell? 1960 Tahoe promise? No. Because that was Kennedy’s private moment. Dean’s private promise. Nobody should know.
Personal reasons. Mr. Dunan. Personal reasons. Personal reasons. This is President’s funeral. I know, sir. And I’m very sorry, but I can’t. Mr. Martin, this will be scandal. Papers will write your career. I know. And you don’t care. Dean speaking quietly. I care, Mr. Duncan. I care very much. But some things, some things are more important than career.
Dungone breathing, trying to calm down. I’m asking one last time, Mr. Martin. Are you sure? Yes, sir. I’m sure. Okay, I’ll tell Mrs. Kennedy and and God help you, Mr. Martin, because America won’t forgive. Phone hanging up. Dean putting down phone, hands shaking, Frank looking. Did you do it? Yes, Dean.
You You’re crazy. Dean smiling, sad smile. Maybe, but I kept my promise. November 25th, 1963. Monday, John F. Kennedy’s funeral. Arlington National Cemetery. Whole world watching leaders of 100 countries there. De Gaulle Churchill’s assistant. Haley Salassie. Jackie in black. Veil on face. Caroline and John John beside her.
Ceremony starting. Military honor and casket. The battle hymn of the republic playing but Dean Martin not singing. Someone else singing in Los Angeles. Dean at home alone watching television. Funeral images. Jackie, children, casket. Dean crying, silently crying because he should be there. Jackie wanted him, but he couldn’t go because he promised. Never funeral songs.
Phone ringing, constantly ringing. Dean not looking, not answering because he knows. Press agencies questions. Next day newspapers. Dean Martin didn’t honor president. Martin didn’t go to JFK funeral. Why? Disrespect. Dean Martin refused. Letters coming. Thousands of letters. You’re a traitor. Shameful. Didn’t you love president? Dean not reading.
Burning them all because he can’t explain. Can’t share Kennedy’s promise. December 1963. 3 weeks later. Dean still target of press. Phone constantly ringing. But Dean not talking. Mail arriving. White envelope with White House seal on it. Dean opening with trembling hands. Handwritten letter from Jackie Kennedy. Dean starts reading with curiosity.
Dear Mr. Martin, I know you refused to sing at funeral. Mr. Duncan told me many people are angry. They don’t understand. But I I thought about it. Jack loved you very much. He would listen to your songs at home while relaxing. That’s Amore was favorite. He would smile, would dance, would be happy.
And maybe, maybe you knew Jack didn’t like sad songs, didn’t like morning songs. He liked happy songs. If you didn’t come because of this, if you wanted to remember him this way, happy, dancing, smiling, then thank you, Mr. Martin, because maybe maybe this is what Jack would want. I don’t know if you understand me, but I hope you understand.
With respect and gratitude, Jacqueline Kennedy when Dean finishes letter crying. Uncontrollably crying because Jackie understood. Understood without knowing understood what Kennedy wanted. Happy songs, not mourning. And this this is enough. Dean Frame’s letter hangs on wall and never explains again. Years passing. Dean and interviews constantly same question. Mr.
Martin, why didn’t you go to JFK funeral in 1963? Dean, same answer every time. Personal reasons, but people want to know, I know, but some things can’t be explained. Dean Martin dies. Something found in his home. Framed letter from Jackie. And Dean’s handwritten note. 1960. I promised a man. 1963. I kept that promise.
World didn’t understand, but Jackie understood. Kennedy understood. And that’s enough. Some promises are stronger than death. Dean Martin never explained, never defended himself for 40 years. Just kept his promise to a president, to a man, to a friend. And today, people still ask, why didn’t Dean Martin go to JFK’s funeral? Answer is simple.
because he had promised happy songs, never funeral songs. And Dean Martin was man of his word until the end, until death and beyond. Dean Martin said no to the White House, said no to Jackie Kennedy, said no to history books because he had promised three years earlier in a private moment to a scared candidate who became president.
Only happy songs, never funeral songs. And Dean kept that promise even when it cost him everything. Even when America called him traitor for 40 years, he never explained, never defended himself, just kept his word until they found Jackie’s letter. Thank you for remembering him happy. She understood. Kennedy understood.
And maybe that’s all that mattered. Some promises are bigger than careers. Some promises are stronger than death. Dean Martin proved that. November 1963 when he said no to the world but yes to his
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