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Neil Diamond discovers his Black ex-girlfriend in extreme poverty — his reaction is compassion

Neil just watched her, his heart breaking, remembering the beautiful, vibrant young woman she had been over 50 years ago. When Diane finally finished eating and pushed the plate away, she looked at Neil with tears in her eyes. Thank you. I can’t remember the last time someone showed me kindness like that. Neil reached across the table and took her hand. Diane, tell me what happened.

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You were going to be a teacher. You were so smart, so talented. How did you end up on the streets? Diane took a deep breath and began to tell her story. After she and Neil broke up in 1962, she had finished college and become a teacher as planned. She taught elementary school in Harlem for 15 years and loved it.

She got married in 1968 to a man named Marcus Johnson. They had three children together. Life was good for a while, but in 1977, Marcus died suddenly of a heart attack. He was only 33 years old. Diane was left alone with three young children, ages 5, 7, and nine. She continued teaching and raising her kids, working two jobs to make ends meet.

Her children grew up and went to college, all three of them. Diane was so proud. She had sacrificed everything to give them opportunities she never had. But in the early 2000s, tragedy struck again. Her oldest son was killed in a car accident in 2003. He was only 35, had just gotten married, was about to become a father.

Diane fell into depression so severe she couldn’t work anymore. She lost her teaching job. Then her health started failing. She developed diabetes and high blood pressure, conditions that required medication she couldn’t afford without insurance. Her other two children helped as much as they could, but they had their own families and struggles.

In 2008, the financial crisis hit and Diane lost her apartment when she couldn’t pay rent. She moved in with her daughter for a while, but her daughter’s husband didn’t want her there long term. They were struggling themselves with money and space. Diane didn’t want to be a burden, so she left. She stayed in shelters for a few years, bouncing around the system.

But shelters were dangerous, especially for older women. She was robbed twice, assaulted once. Eventually, she decided she was safer on the streets. She had been homeless for the last 7 years. Her children didn’t know. She had told them she was living with a friend, that she was okay. She didn’t want them to worry or feel guilty that they couldn’t help her more.

Neil listened to all of this with tears streaming down his face. This woman who had loved him when he was nobody, who had encouraged him to keep writing songs when he wanted to give up, who had believed in his talent before anyone else did, had been living on the streets for 7 years while he had millions of dollars and multiple homes. Why didn’t you reach out to me? Neil asked. Diane, I would have helped you.

I would have done anything to help you. Diane smiled sadly. Neil, we dated for less than 2 years over 50 years ago. We broke up. You went on to have this incredible career, multiple marriages, children. I was just a girlfriend from your past. I didn’t think I had the right to come to you asking for help. And honestly, I was ashamed.

I didn’t want you to see me like this. Would you have reached out to an exartner from 50 years ago if you were homeless and desperate? Or would pride have stopped you? Share your thoughts in the comments. Neil squeezed her hand tighter. Diane, you’re not just a girlfriend from my past. You were important to me.

You helped shape who I became. Do you remember that night in 1961 when I was ready to quit music? I had been rejected by every record label in New York. I was broke. I was discouraged. I was done. You sat with me all night in that coffee shop in Greenwich Village, and you told me I was talented, that my songs were special, that I couldn’t give up.

You made me promise I’d keep trying for one more year. That conversation changed my life. 6 months later, I got my first publishing deal. Everything that happened after that, all the success, all the music, it started because you believed in me. I owe you everything. Diane started crying harder. I didn’t think you’d remember that night.

It was so long ago. Neil shook his head. I remember everything about our time together. I remember how you used to come to the tiny clubs where I played for audiences of five people. I remember how you’d applaud louder than anyone. I remember how you’d tell everyone you knew that your boyfriend was going to be famous someday.

I remember how you shared your food with me when I was too broke to buy my own. You were there during the hardest time of my life. I never forgot that, Diane. I never forgot you. They sat in that diner for 3 hours talking about their lives, about the paths they had taken, about the memories they shared.

Diane told Neil about her children, about her grandchildren she rarely got to see because she was ashamed of being homeless. She told him about her son who died, about how that loss had broken something inside her that never healed. She told him about the small joys she found even living on the streets, the other homeless people who looked out for each other, the occasional kind stranger who would give her food or money, the sunset she watched every evening from her spot on the corner.

She had learned to find beauty in small things because she had nothing else. Neil told her about his career, about the songs he’d written, about touring the world, about the three marriages and the children and the complicated family dynamics. He told her about the Parkinson’s diagnosis and his retirement from touring.

He told her about the loneliness that sometimes came with fame, about how success hadn’t made him happy in the way he thought it would when he was young. He told her that sitting here with her talking like they used to talk 50 years ago was the most genuine conversation he’d had in a long time.

In the world of entertainment, everyone wanted something from him. But Diane just wanted to talk, to remember, to connect with someone who knew her before life got so hard. When they finally left the diner, Neil made a decision. Diane, I’m going to help you. I’m going to get you off the streets. You’re going to have a home again, medical care, everything you need.

Please let me do this. Diane started to protest. Neil, that’s too much. I can’t accept that. But Neil was firm. Yes, you can. You helped me when I had nothing. Let me help you now. Please don’t say no. You deserve so much better than living on the streets. Diane looked at him with an expression of hope mixed with disbelief.

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