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Neil Diamond FOLLOWS Marjorie Diamond — and what he SEES makes him BREAK DOWN IN TEARS

It’s not much, but it’s mine.” Neil shook his head. “The divorce settlement. I made sure you were taken care of. The house in Brooklyn, the investments, there should have been enough money for you to live comfortably for the rest of your life.” Marjorie smiled sadly. There was Neil. There was plenty of money for a while.

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She paused, looking down at her hands. But life happens. How daughter Marjgerie, your namesake. She got sick in the 1990s cancer. She beat it, thank God. But the medical bills were enormous. Her insurance didn’t cover everything. I used most of my savings to help her. Then Elen went through a terrible divorce 10 years ago. Her husband left her with nothing and three kids to raise. I helped her, too.

I sold the house in Brooklyn to give her money to start over. Neil felt like he’d been punched in the stomach. Why didn’t you tell me? Why didn’t you ask for help? I could have helped with all of that. Marjgerie looked at him with an expression he couldn’t quite read. Neil, we hadn’t spoken in 25 years when Marjgerie got sick.

You had a new wife, new children, a new life. I didn’t feel right coming to you asking for money. And honestly, I was proud. I wanted to handle it myself. The girls are my daughters, too. It was my responsibility to help them. What about the child support and alimony? That should have continued. Marjgerie shook her head. The child support ended when both girls turned 18.

The alimony ended when I remarried in 1978. Neil’s eyes widened. You remarried? I didn’t know that. Marjgerie nodded. His name was Robert. He was a good man, a high school principal. We were married for 12 years before he died of a heart attack in 1990. After he died, I went back to teaching. I taught elementary school until I was 72 3 years ago.

Now I’m retired, living on social security and a small pension. It’s enough. I’m okay, Neil. You don’t need to worry about me. But Neil was worried. He looked around the tiny apartment at this woman who had sacrificed everything for him when they were young, who had worked to support his dreams, who had given him two beautiful daughters, and who had then spent the rest of her life quietly helping those daughters through their own struggles without ever asking him for anything.

“This isn’t right,” Neil said, his voice breaking. “You should be living better than this. You shouldn’t have had to sacrifice everything.” Marjgerie reached over and put her hand on his. Neil, I made my choices. I’m at peace with them. I helped my daughters when they needed me. That’s what parents do. You’ve helped them, too.

I know you have. We both did our best. Neil felt tears starting to form in his eyes. I’m so sorry, Marjgerie, for everything. For not being there when we were married, for letting my career destroy our relationship, for not checking on you all these years, for not knowing what you were going through. Marjgerie squeezed his hand gently.

We were so young, Neil. 22 years old when we got married. You had dreams that were bigger than Brooklyn, bigger than a little apartment and a teaching salary. I understood that even when it hurt. You weren’t a bad husband. You were just a man chasing something that was calling him. I made my peace with it a long time ago.

But you gave up so much for me, Neil said, the tears now flowing freely down his face. You worked to support me for 6 years while I chased this crazy dream. And when it finally started working, when the money and success came, I left you. How can you not hate me? Marjgerie smiled sadly. I could never hate you, Neil. I loved you. You were my first love.

Yes, I was hurt when we divorced. Yes, I was angry for a while. But I watched your career over the years. I listened to your music. I saw you become everything you dreamed of becoming. And I was proud of you. Our daughters are proud of you. You gave the world beautiful music that counts for something. If you had been in Neil’s position that afternoon, discovering your ex-wife had been living in poverty while you had millions, what would you have done? Share your thoughts in the comments.

Neil sat on that old couch in that tiny apartment and cried. He cried for the young couple they had been so full of hope and dreams. He cried for the marriage that had crumbled under the weight of his ambition. He cried for all the years that had passed without him knowing what Marjgerie was going through.

He cried for the sacrifices she had made for their daughters that he hadn’t even known about. And he cried because sitting across from him was a woman who had every right to be bitter and angry, but instead showed him nothing but kindness and grace. Marjgerie got up and sat next to him on the couch, putting her arm around his shoulders like she used to do when they were young, and the world felt too big and scary. It’s okay, Neil.

Everything turned out the way it was supposed to. They talked for 3 hours that afternoon. Marjorie told him about her life after their divorce, about Robert and their marriage, about teaching elementary school for 30 years and loving it, about watching their daughters grow up and become mothers themselves, about her seven grandchildren who visited her regularly.

Neil told her about his marriages, about his sons from his second marriage, about his music and touring, and about the Parkinson’s diagnosis that had just ended his touring career. They laughed about memories from Brooklyn, about the tiny apartment they had shared where the radiator never worked and they had to sleep in their coats in winter, about the first time Neil got a song published and they celebrated with cheap champagne.

About the dreams they had dreamed together when they were too young to know how hard everything would be. When Neil finally stood up to leave, he looked at Marjgerie and said, “I’m going to fix this. You shouldn’t be living like this.” Marjgerie shook her head. Neil, I don’t need your charity. I’m fine. But Neil was firm.

This isn’t charity. This is me doing what I should have done a long time ago. You helped me when I had nothing. You believed in me. You gave me two incredible daughters. Let me help you now, please. Marjgerie looked at him for a long moment and then nodded slowly. Okay, but nothing extravagant. I don’t need a mansion.

I just want to be comfortable. Over the next few months, Neil worked with his lawyers and financial advisers to set up a trust fund for Marjorie. He bought her a small house in a nice neighborhood of Los Angeles, nothing too big or fancy, just a comfortable two-bedroom with a yard and a neighborhood where she felt safe.

He made sure she had enough money to live comfortably for the rest of her life without worrying about expenses. He set up college funds for all seven of their grandchildren. And he started seeing Marjgerie regularly, not as former spouses, but as old friends who had shared something important when they were young.

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